Kenversations™ - Dec 3, 2004

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Looking at all of this, is it really so strange for a bachelor to be into Disney? I think the answer is clear.

I was a Disneyland annual passholder when I was a teen. It was a fun place to escape once a week or so during the school year to take a break from the pressures of studying. Spending summer days and nights there was a nice alternative to the beach. It was a great place to watch the girls.

I became a Disneyland cast member when I was just seventeen. In all of my years as a cast member, I only ever dated three women who were fellow cast members when I met them. As I type this, I'm just a few days away from marrying a fellow Disney fan who did work as a cast member during my time as a cast member, but strangely I wasn't introduced to her at the Disneyland Resort. It took modern communications to bring us together. We did, however, have our first date at the Disneyland Resort, and I did propose to her -on a different date- as we posed for pictures with Snow White by her wishing well. You can read all about that in a previous edition of this column: http://www.laughingplace.com/News-ID111480.asp

Reflecting back on my days as a Bachelor Disnoid, I can see how convenient it was to be able to drop in at the Resort just to hang out with friends or get away from it all. It was a great place to take a date. Now that I'll be married, it will still be a great place to take my date. She'll be the same date the rest of my life- my wonderful wife, who not only accepts my interest in Disney as "okay", she was actually looking for a man who was into Disney.

Sure, the Resort will no longer serve the purpose of "gal watching" with the intention of pursuit, but it will be a great place for us to get away together as a married couple. It will be a great place to take our kids…when we have them. We'll enjoy watching Disney films with them, and we'll probably be able to bore them silly with "making of" details. We'll probably be more eager to take vacations at Disney resorts than our kids.

In the waning moments of my bachelorhood, what advice can I give to the remaining Bachelor Disnoids?

Don't let anyone get to you with their scoffing. There's nothing wrong with being a Disnoid per se. I'm assuming you are not a total obsessive freak whose pursuit of Disney interests prevents you from having a life. If that is the case, you deserve ridicule. I wrote another column on this: http://www.laughingplace.com/News-ID111090.asp

Do you want to remain a bachelor? If not, consider what you need in a wife. One thing you're going to need is a tolerance of your interest in Disney. She doesn't need to share your interests; she just needs to accept them. If she does share those interests, well, that's a nice bonus. I do not recommend basing a marriage relationship primarily on an interest in Disney, however. If you don't have compatible and complimentary goals, worldviews, habits, lifestyles, personalities, etc., your common interest in Disney will not be enough. You can use Disney to woo her and make memories you'll share forever.

Do you want to remain a bachelor for now? If so, there's nothing wrong with making Disney a part of your recreation with the guys or with casual dates. The resorts have much to offer, especially at night, to provide a good time for couples, even if it is just relaxing in a quite corner with nice scenery.

As for me, I'm embarking on a new phase in my life as a Disnoid. I'll be married to another Disnoid, without children. Whenever either one of us has the itch to watch a Disney film or hit a Disney theme park, we'll have our best friend and a date to go with. People may still look at me strange for vacationing at Walt Disney World or taking a Disney Cruise, but at least I'll have a beautiful, sweet woman on my arm to endure the strange looks with me and/or to "blame" for my being involved in Disney.

And when we have kids, my alibi will be complete.

My oh my, what a wonderful day.

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-- Ken Pellman

This is Ken Pellman's last column as a bachelor, as he is marrying Kori on Saturday, December 4. He is a writer, theme park nerd, Disneyana collector, and PIO. Ken can be reached directly at Kenversations[at]flash[dot]net or at http://www.Pellman.net, where you can learn more about him.

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--Posted December 1, 2004
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